White athletes dating black women
‘Black people’ didn’t take my son to tennis lessons this week.
‘Black people’ didn’t support me while I was trying to make it a writer.
These are generalizations, of course, but they are attitudes that I've personally encountered.
Relationships are not (anymore, at least) a collectivist act.Analyzing individual relationships to make a broader political point can be tricky, as Ta-Nehisi Coates notes.He wrote last year that one big problem when talking about black men dating white women is the “kind of collectivist approach toward something as individual and private as marriage.” He continues: I’m a black dude hooked up with a black woman–but I don’t sleep with ‘black people.’ ‘Black people’ don’t pay half of my rent.British screenwriter Ol Parker met actress Thandie Newton while working on a BBC film and married in 1998.R&B singer Robin Thicke began dating actress Paula Patton when he was 16 and they married in 2005.The white men who can get past the mental anguish of my black penis tarnishing "their" women think I'm making some latent admission that their race has the most attractive women.