Make sure it's possible for them to go home separately if they need to, have a private signal that means "I'm exhausted," and figure out the easiest way for them to slip out.Avoid resentment: compromise if you want to leave together (stay until after somebody's cut the cake, for instance).It will be fun to flip it around a bit today and put these years of research to work for you!They love the feeling of no-pressure spaciousness when it comes to both social and romantic interactions.But it needs to happen, so change your perception of it.It's now recognized that a few moments of silence and listening to your own body every day have health and psychological benefits, and that peaceful isolation is part of a strong relationship.
It makes them good at self-reliance and working independently, and is an asset, not something they should be trained out of.That’s exhausting for them, especially if they already feel on-edge. So if you can trust they’re feeling and thinking things they’re just not letting on yet, and if you can feel excited and curious about that idea, that’s excellent.If they’re a little slower to express themselves, or if their expression feels a bit more understated than you’re used to, understand that it doesn’t mean they’re not feeling. At that point, you’re giving off positive and relaxed vibes.My dude knows everybody, and can talk to them at great length wherever he is: on the street, at the supermarket, hanging upside down.It's now accepted that if I've used up my social energy for the day, I'll drift off from these conversations and look at something else, or just quietly listen from the sidelines.This is a massive relief to me: not only am I introverted, I'm also a little socially anxious. How much quiet time do they need before they're up and ready to talk to people again?