Dating recovering alcoholic man
She is also 23 years sober and married to a fellow sober alcoholic.
As she explains, “The biggest challenge in sober relationships is allowing the person to work their own program and not trying to control what they do even when we think we know what’s in their best interest.
They also usually have friends and sponsors and people they can get support from—a lot of whom are also in successful sober relationships.”But what happens when only one person in a relationship is working a program of recovery and the other one is not?
I continue to see people with less than one year who don’t even have one step under their belt try to get into a relationship. ” For those with time however, relationships can still be daunting.
Priscilla is a 29-year old nurse from Bridgeport, Connecticut with five years of sobriety who has been with her current boyfriend, who is also a recovered alcoholic, for less than two years.
There’s an old joke in recovery circles that goes: how do you know when a date between two sober alcoholics has gone well?
Punch line: They move in together before it's over.I know some couples for whom relapse is a deal breaker. For a long-term relationship in the program, you’re probably going to see the best success when one or both partners have at least five years sober and when they both have a sponsor, a network of friends in recovery, and have worked the 12 steps.