Dating my teenage daughter
I firmly believe it is in a girl’s best interest to delay dating until she is mature enough to handle the responsibility and to begin the process of exploring the possibility of a married vocation and seeking a spouse.
And it is up to parents to protect their daughters.
In other words, they’ll be better able to handle it.
This is not to say that boy/girl relationships are totally off limits before age 18. Girls can meet en masse with young men at Steak and Shake, Burger King or the local pizza place, at the homes of (carefully chosen) friends for get-togethers , with parents present…whom the girls’ parents know…and who share similar values.
If you have something sincere to say, by all means say it, or email me, but I will not tolerate ridicule, which is what I got from a number of my college alma mater “connections” last time I posted for young men “Mom’s Rules for Getting the Girl”. We have six daughters, currently three teenagers, one in her early twenties and the others are 11 and 8.
The comments mostly came from a Linked In group that went ballistic, but there were some on this blog too and I deleted the rudest ones. They are intelligent, talented and beautiful girls, as I’m sure yours are as well.
Principles hold true even where fads and fashions fade.
An evolution of culture may include outward appearances that differ from generations before (clothes, trends, even ideas), but objective truth and the needs of the human soul remain constant- they always were, they are and they will remain the same in the future.
What’s more, and along the same lines, a girl’s positive relationship with her brothers also helps her develop healthy personal and social relationships with males, which helps later on in her life.If her father is loving and protective, and pays appropriate attention to her by cheering her on in her accomplishments, whether those accomplishments are in soccer or dance or something else…compliments her on her femininity, telling her she looks pretty in a dress when she does or that he notices and likes her new haircut, he is encouraging her to take care of herself and value herself.When a girl values herself by being valued first by her father (both for she accomplishes), this sets a lifelong trend of a girl having self respect.That’s just nature, and the fact that the temptation is larger because of the way society accepts and even promotes promiscuity.Before I have a wave of feminists lambasting me for this idea they’ll surely label as 1950s drivel, I would like to cut this criticism off at the pass and state that are never decade driven or outdated.They attend supervised dances, skating parties and the like.