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I have been with my boyfriend for over a year and I do not understand why he won’t stop flirting with other girls.

I give him everything that he needs sexually, emotionally, physically and mentally, but still he flirts with other girls and has sexy conversations with them. You’re making a whole lot of assumptions in your question…

I mean, all of his sexual needs are completely met by you, right? And all of his emotional needs are met by you, so it can’t be that he enjoys the ego boost of feeling desired by a woman…

My point in all this is that if you believe that you’re meeting all his needs, you will be blind to areas where the relationship needs to grow.

When men act out in whatever way they act out, you’ll find what I just described at the heart of the matter: a deep feeling of separateness, insignificance and undesirability.

Most guys would never admit to feeling anything like that.

When you can accept him as he is, you start to show him a path towards filling that void.

When you can recognize what he “gets” from his behavior and you can truly understand him as a man, you might not take his actions personally anymore.

Maybe what you meant is that you’re giving him everything *you think* he needs sexually, emotionally, etc. Oftentimes, we love other people in the way that we want to be loved – and while you make certain adjustments toward him since he’s a dude, it’s not safe to bet that you’re satisfying his every need…But I can’t think of a time where the insecurity of one partner inspired a change in the other partner.Especially when the insecure partner isn’t willing to walk away regardless of whether or not they get what they want.Most aren’t even consciously aware of those feelings.But if you can see past your own hurts and desires, you’ll see men everywhere trying to fill emotional voids through their actions and achievements.

Rather than wanting him to change, the better path is to move towards understanding each other better.

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