Best friend and the guy you like are dating
Jealousy and possessiveness occur in all relationships- including friendships.
I've been envious of new friends that supplant old friendships.
That is, friends do not criticize each other in a Parent-to-Child way, although they may give each other advice." In other words, friends don't tend to unilaterally lay down the law on the other person the way parents do with their children.
And especially not before any actual relationship has developed.
Also, everyone has had or been a "bad friend" at some point in their lives, right?
I know that eventually falling for a guy or girl who likes you but has opted for the friendship consolation prize can work, but two people who originally aren't attracted are a lot less likely to get together. I am living proof that you can indeed be friends first. Non-romantic friendship turned into something more. Something more has turned into 25 wonderful years and a beautiful family. We not only deeply love each other, we LIKE each other. I agree with you completely and Kim's article made me very angry - just because *she* has never had a ''friends first'' relationship doesn't mean it's impossible.
In most cases I've seen, one partner has hidden their attraction, whether from the start or after a failed courting attempt, and has been biding their time. And that's the benefit of a foundation of true friendship! I myself fell in love with a guy, and it started with just a friendship, I didn't find him at all attractive when we first met.
Not everyone choses their friends based on a lack of physical attraction or significant others based on mystery or exoticism. It proves that 2 people got on brilliantly and fell in love without the sex part.
I'm never fully attracted to someone unless I think of them as a friend first. The sex part just either completes what was developed, or if they're both asexuals it never forms part of the relationship. Sex is mostly just a biological urge nothing to do with love.I've never been "friends first" with a boy, though the concept is quite fascinating. Many experts advise that couples should be friends first.